Method & scoring
Conflict Reflection
An original TraitMap reflection. It organizes your own answers and has not been validated as a psychological scale. The indicators describe these answers, not a population rank or a diagnosis.
What we ask
Think about one recent disagreement. Use Not applicable for things that did not happen. Your answers describe your behavior, not who was right.
8 items · Instrument version: traitmap-2026-10-07-v1
How the report is calculated
Each indicator groups two original items. We show the mean of their 1–5 answers only when both were applicable. “Not applicable” is never treated as zero or an average response. No overall score or forced ranking is created.
These small item groups have not undergone reliability or validity studies. Treat them as an organized record of your answers, with a question to discuss or reflect on.
Answer-quality checks
We display a review reminder when at least eight rated items all receive the same response, or completion takes less than one second per item on average. For Big Five, we also check five related item pairs (1/6, 3/38, 5/40, 15/30, 7/32): three or more differences of at least three scale points after reverse scoring trigger a reminder.
These are transparent heuristics, not validated lie detection or reliability estimates. Different situations can explain differences. A reminder does not change scores or hide a report. They cannot prevent deliberate manipulation.
Items and scoring key
- I explained the specific event I was concerned about. (Expressing the issue)
- I said what I wanted to happen next. (Expressing the issue)
- I asked how the other person saw the situation. (Understanding differences)
- I checked that I understood their main concern. (Understanding differences)
- When taking a break, I explained that I needed one. (Pausing with a plan)
- We agreed when to return to the conversation. (Pausing with a plan)
- I checked later whether our agreement was working. (Following up)
- I acknowledged something I wanted to handle differently. (Following up)